###Top 5 Ways to Make a Woman Irresistibly Attracted to You###
If you want to attract women, you have to think like a salesman. Know what your clients want, and tune your product--that's you--to fit the clients' needs.
In order to do that, you have to do the same thing all marketers do to capture people's interest with their products: invent killer Packaging. Hey, let's face it: women judge men based on looks. And who can blame them? Before they can get to know you, they only have optic things to judge you on: your clothes, your height, your body language, your status. We men are just like any other product: in order to sell well, we need great packaging!
It all comes down to women's evolutionary instincts: find the best mate for them and their unborn children. How do they do this? By finding which men are strong, which ones are successful, and which ones have high status.
While times have changed, still these instincts remain. One evolutionary scientist, Dr. David Buss, did a study of over 10,000 population in 37 countries, on six continents, and found that women value men based on three big things: ambition, status, and financial resources. Similarly, relationship expert, Andrea P. Roberts, suggests that women conclude a man's worthiness based on 3 "T's", or "takais," a Japanese word that represents good qualities: schooling level, physical height, and salary level. Quite a bit deeper than having a nice ass and big
breasts, isn't it?
Okay, some of you may be thinking: Well, I'm not tall, and I'm not rich. Now what?!?
The good news is, height and wealth aren't the be-all and end-all of attraction; they're just aids to success. It's similar to saying you want a unquestionably costly car...but that doesn't mean you'd never drive a Honda. In fact, for a lot of population (including women!), when you learn that Hondas have great mileage than Hummers, they can be more attractive! As Roberts writes, "even an lowly man doesn't have to be exceptionally rich or superior to make women want him. It's all a matter of the women's perspective if he ends up taller, smarter or wealthier than them."
Got that? It's all about perspective: how you market yourself successfully to a woman. Hey, lots of population know that Creative Mp3 Players are great quality than I-Pods, but that doesn't seem to stop Apple from selling I-Pods like hotcakes, does it? So if you're short, or of mean income, but present your safe bet traits in the right way, it won't matter: you'll come to be the I-Pods of men! As Roberts writes, "Think of Napoleon, Mickey Rooney or Groucho; they are humorous, artistic or politically superior men who wooed women into their beds and, horizontally, the height issue wasn't a factor. Gentle and persuasive persistence is the best trait."
So what we have are five areas that we must market effectively if we want to spark an first attraction from women. After that, it's up to you to show what a great guy you are: let her know you're special, unique, one of a kind. That's what makes you...a best-seller!
1. Ambition
From an evolutionary stand-point, this one makes faultless sense. Think cavemen and cave women in the Stone Age, with some of the weaker cavemen seeking a higher station in the tribe. Who do you think the cave women went for? The men who hobbled along meekly in the lowest of the order...or the men who strived for more and sought a higher place in the pack? Much of a woman's desire to be with a man who is ambitious and seeks success, is based plainly on survival: The more superior the man, the more likely she'll survive and live well. Logically, going for a guy who has no ambition means she's likely to live in poverty and struggle. Not very appealing, is it?
So you have to present yourself as a guy who's not satisfied with his station in life. This is good for both you and her. If you're making an hour at McDonald's and are article to stay there, not many women are going to be attracted to you. But if you're making an hour and working your ass off to own your own franchise, taking company classes at night so you can learn how to run a business: well, suddenly you're not so bad-looking! Believe me, women will give men a chance, they want to give men a chance--as long as they see potential. Know that quote, "Behind every great man is an even greater woman"? Show you've got inherent and direction, and you'll get that great woman.
2. Status
Again, evolutionary instincts of survival make women plainly attracted to men of high status. High status=good living for herself and her children. Fortunately, projecting high status does not have to be difficult; agreeing to Roberts, "Wearing the right clothes, especially nice shoes, can go a long way toward portraying wealth. Taking on the unshaken or unworried attitude of wealthy men can task affluence. Hesitant, irresolute, bland men come across as having lower incomes and being less reliable." Got that? You don't have to be a powerful, utter man yourself-you just have to task similar qualities.
Some of these qualities include:
* Not putting yourself down. Without being a braggart, talk unquestionably about your accomplishments, job position, and possessions-even if they're not much. If you treat things as a big deal, other population will, too. Conversely, if you downplay your accomplishments and character, women will, too. Your attitude is contagious, so make sure it's an enthusiastic, enlivening one that population enjoy.
* Act like you deserve good women. Don't let women assume a higher status than you. Show them that You are the one with higher status. You can do this in a amount of ways, together with not acting impressed by a woman's charm or vocation (say, she's a model); teasing her about her clothes or makeup; and request her to buy you a drink. Chances are she won't, but just by acting like you deserve it, you raise your status! She's not such an untouchable goddess in the end.
Remember, as well, that women want to Earn a man; they relish the challenge of luring in a winning catch. So play hard to get: talk to other girls, say you've got to be leaving just when things are going well, don't immediately ask for her phone number. If you act like a man who can have his pick of women, then chances are, you will!
* Knowing population of high status. This is a great one. Get to know the population of power: the club owners, bartenders, maitres'd. Position yourself as a sociable person who's in the know. When a woman sees you getting special rehabilitation and chatting with high-status people, she'll see right away that you're person of importance. It will also cut the significance of the other factors, such as height, money, and ambition; immediately you've proven yourself valuable.
* collective proof/Female acquaintances. Hey, nothing says, "This guy's attractive" than having females colse to him. Of course, the hotter they are, the hotter you look, but even just having average-looking female company can only help: it shows women that other women are concerned in you. Do your best to get your female friends and family (sisters, cousins) to come out with you. It's collective proof, and it works!
* Wearing nice clothes. "When a man is well dressed," writes communications expert, Leil Lowndes, "it signifies his quality to contribute for her offspring." You don't have to be rich and superior to wear nice clothes. You just have to show that you're a man of quality, a man headed towards somewhere who pays attention to dress (something women cna never get adequate of). Formal clothes, such as a suit, carry that you are serious about success; you desire good things. So just by wearing a nice sports jacket, dress shirt, and slacks, you let a woman know you're a man with status. You're a man who could contribute for her and her children.
The colors you wear are vital: Studies show that red, burgundy, and black clothes carry high status. So get yourself some slick black suits or formal wear, a red shirt, and one of my favorites (and girls'!), a sleek burgundy button-down shirt. They all carry regality and strength.
In the case of red, you have the added bonus of sexuality, power, and dominance: undoubtedly good qualities to portray! Go and buy a nice red polo shirt, or red tie for your suit.
If you enjoy white clothes-the color of purity and cleanliness-then make sure you work on your Tan. White clothes against a dark backdrop make you look exotic, sexy, and well-travelled. You don't have to be an jet-setting playboy, to look like one!
* Winning body language. Women judge men by the way they move and position themselves; it's part of their superior transportation skills to know what a man is reasoning or feeling based on his body language. So, position yourself in the right way: don't slouch, sit upright, gaze at her knowingly, lean into her to open intimacy. I've got a great column on body language that will teach you the right ways-and the wrong ways-to task high status.
3. Financial Resources
According to Matthew Fitzgerald, "Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms, ties, costly watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man's physical appearance. To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking."
Okay, so not every guy has money for costly suits and watches, and materialism may not be part of your game. However, if you want to impress women, one of the fastest ways is by wearing snazzy clothes, sporting nice shoes (girls Love shoes!), and driving an costly car. Especially when it comes to designer brands, women are Very keen at spotting high-quality products. It's just part of their nature; with costly possessions come high status and ambition, and a more comfortable lifestyle. Again, this all comes from their instinctual drive for survival and prosperity for themselves and their children. By owning the best, you come to be the best. At least on the surface.
Ultimately, if you want true love it's up to you to find women who share the same goals and values. If money and status aren't the most foremost things in life for you, don't chase the girls who do prioritize those things. Don't go for the shallow, bitchy types who only judge a man by how much he can spend on her.
4. Educational Level
Knowledge unquestionably is power, and on top of that, it's an aphrodisiac! Gone are the days when being smart was acquainted with being a nerd; now, knowledge and brain are your friends. It's the easiest way to money, and the easiest way to success. So show it off a little. Let her know your Talents, your interests, your areas of special knowledge. As Roberts writes, "Women are drawn to experts like the Crocodile Hunter, Bill Gates and Chris Rock because they're experts in their industries." None of those guys is particularly good-looking, but they're good at what they do, and parlay their knowledge into success, which drives women wild.
A guy who's an master is one who is clearly successful and of higher status. At the very least, having a special knowledge means you have the Tools for success, and can contribute intellectual stimulation for a girl (which, unless she's a bimbo with an Iq of 70, is quite foremost for women).
Additionally, just being in school is a great way to show off your knowledge: "If you're in school, not only are there more women available, but you've already demonstrated to them that you're getting educated. Otherwise, it's up to you to come across as reliable and credible without making her feel dumb."
5. physical Aptitude
Physical height alone is an easy way to catch a woman's attention, but it's not the only thing. Again, evolutionary mechanics come into play here. A man who is tall, strong, and athletic is more likely to fend off threats to the woman and her children. He is also more likely to have a strong immune system, which will added aid their chances of survival. So, you can't blame women too much for valuing these things: in the world of female attraction, it unquestionably is a survival of the fittest. Those who show women they are in shape and healthy are much more likely to survive the dating game! Ergo, athletes, bouncers, firemen get the girls.
As for height, it's all a matter of perspective. We've all seen short guys with tall beautiful women. Neil Strauss himself, the best of the best pickup artists, is just 5'6" yet gets more beautiful women than we can imagine. How? By believing in himself. By positioning himself as a man of high status. By not bowing down to women of greater height or beauty. And by being a guy women know is fun and energetic to be around. In short, he's got Inner Game, and when you have that down, nothing can stop you. You may even find yourself dating women who are taller than you!
But remember, presenting a man who's healthy and strong, willing to stand up for himself and the girl in a fight: that's the kind of guy who women will go for, regardless of height. Did you know that men with strong immune systems give off pheromone scents that women are instinctively attracted to? If you pay attention to what you eat and go to the gym on a quarterly basis, you're going to build your immune ideas up, and attract women without even trying! So do it, and watch the amount of dates you get, soar.
In the end, men are like books: women judge them by their covers. But inside is an even great story. So make your cover captivating, and you'll come to be a "best-seller" in no time!
Top 5 Ways to Make a Woman Irresistibly Attracted to You
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